Sunday, 22 September 2013

Grow up?


I have just finished Doll Bones by Holly Black and it inspired me to write this blog.

For me Doll Bones is about that pivotal point in a child’s life when they have to let go of their childhood and embrace young adulthood.  I think in 2013, most pre-teens are only too happy to do so.  I wonder if there are some who aren’t ready to do so, even though it is expected of them?  My guess is yes.  This is the case for the characters in the book - Zach, Poppy and Alice.  

It resonated with me because I was just like them at 12.  I loved to play (with dolls of the Barbie kind) and was under pressure from my dad to give them up.  I wasn’t ready and I continued to do so - when Dad wasn't around to see it - until I was ready to stop.  I realise now that I was afraid to grow up.  I wasn’t quite ready to say goodbye to my childhood.  When the time felt right (and I was fast approaching 13 when it did), I gave my dolls away to someone I hoped would enjoy them as much as I did. 

My parents and I moved to a new place and I made friends with a boy who shared my new love of rollerblading (bought for me by my dad).  The boy became my best friend and rollerblading became my passion.  My dad was relieved and all was right with the world.

Children should be allowed to be children for as long as they need to.  They should not be forced to grow up and be made to feel embarrassed because they want to play.  Play fuels the imagination.

Here is the link to my review of Doll Bones.